I will try to fix you

I will try to fix you

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sleepingtheveil21 asked: I cut too and I wanna cut so bad and my birthday is tomorrow and I'm being taken to the pool so idk what to do and I wanna cry

I’m so terribly sorry I’m answering so late love. How did it go? Are you alright? You can talk to me if you want, I’ll do my best to help. Again, I’m really sorry!

-M

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Anonymous asked: So I'm 13 years old and have what most would say is a pretty good life. Middle class, only child, but my mom has some anger issues and yells a lot. She's not mean, just over reacts, her mom and grandma are like that too. But any way sometimes I make mistakes that I feel bad about, and when she yells I feel like shit. I've start to make small cuts on my thighs with my razor blade in the shower where my parents won't know. If they knew they'd think it was selfish and for attention.I feel like shit

The fact that you don’t have big and serious problems in your life doesn’t mean you don’t have any. Everyone reacts to their problems differently and no problem is too small or unimportant to ignore it. So don’t do that love, don’t hide them from the world. Hiding it will only make you suffer even more, believe me. If she makes you feel bad, just tell her. You never know, maybe she’ll understand. The best way to solve a problem is talking about it. But you’ll never know if it will work if you don’t try. When you feel that you want to cut, go and talk with someone (like a friend for example). The idea is letting out the problem in a different way. Because self harm, after all, it’s just a way of letting out a problem, a release. If you do it when you’re showering, then do something to avoid doing it. Put some music, sing, close your eyes and just open them when you finish or things like that. Hiding the objects you use to cut it’s a good way too. It’s not for attention, you know that. I know that, I understand. Anyone who says otherwise is wrong, period. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone. So try to keep fighting yeah? I’ll be here if you ever need someone to listen. Take care x

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Anonymous asked: It absolutely tears me apart inside when my mom says that is not how I raised you. All I can think is how stupid that is. She raised me, is raising me, and I feel horrible about myself. My dad thinks people who commit suicide or cut are selfish because they don't think of the others in there life they are hurting. I guess he is right to some point, but he also says they are weak. That he doesn't understand them. It breaks my heart. And I'm tired of always thinking of others. I don't even love me

It’s not her fault that you are this sad as you grow up. But it’s not your fault either. There are some things in life we cannot choose, they just come with us for some reason. We can learn how to change them though, little by little. But you can’t do it if you don’t care and think about yourself and your own happiness. And you’re in your whole right to do so, especially now that you’re young. Your life is just beginning and you need to live it. You can’t always think of others and forget about yourself, it’s not fair. No everyone understand what some of us go through. We can try to make them understand, but they’ll never get to know how it truly feels. But it doesn’t matter what they say or believe, you’re not selfish; never think you are. You need to have a strong and confident opinion about yourself, that way other’s thoughts won’t matter. I don’t say it’s easy, I know it’s a long way to go. But you need to start trying. And if to them means you’re being selfish, then so be it. You can’t pretend to live your whole life worrying about everyone around you and ignore that you’re a person that needs love too. The stair might be long, but you’ll never get to the top if you stop walking up. Stay strong, do it for yourself. Take care love x

-M

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Anonymous asked: The other day my family said "before you can love someone else you have to love yourself" And I guess I might me missing the point of this saying But I hate when people say this because to me it's not true. Maybe they mean like if you really love those people you will love yourself enough to take care of yourself or whatever But just looking at the saying in general it ticks me off. I don't love myself but I love my parents. And my family.

Sometimes you need to love yourself more than you love the other person, to make sure you know what’s best for you and don’t let them hurt you. Other times you learn how to love yourself thanks to other’s love for you, you learn to see yourself the way they see you. I don’t know if the saying is true or not, but I strongly believe you need to love yourself whatever the circumstances are. It’s all about building your self confidence, being proud of your virtues and accepting your flaws. Being so insecure about ourselves is one of the main reasons that people’s comments hurt so much. You learn to do it with time, once you start doing things you like to do and let yourself be the person you’ve always wanted to be. It’s all about trying.

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Michele’s story

I’m almost 40 years old and have been deeply scratching/cutting myself with paperclips for the last year or so. I have depression and ptsd from being sexually abused for years as a little girl from my stepfather. I was hospitalized last year for a suicide attempt. My boss has been very caring and we have bonded but I have coworkers who I thought were friends have major issues with my scratching/cutting. I have been threatened with termination by my boss and his boss if it continues or if they see scars. I’m so scared to lose my job plus I don’t trust anyone anymore. Plus I don’t think it’s fair that they can threaten my job because of scars when even they say my job performance otherwise is impeccable. I’m so scared and angry. I no longer have the urge to sh for right now but I’m stressed every day to go to work. They keep having meetings with me because they say they care and want me to get better but I’m still scared to trust. Should I believe them?

Don’t be so scared of trusting someone, not everyone has bad intentions. Maybe they do want you to get better. I know that having those kind of issues is difficult at work. My aunt attempted suicide, but when she came back to work they all were very understanding. I think you should try to prove them that the fact that you have scars doesn’t affect your abilities. It doesn’t have anything to do with it, especially now that you’re better. I don’t believe it’s fair either. But I can’t say much because I don’t know how they handle things in a job. When I wanted to enter to college they made me show a certificate from my therapist, after I said I have depression and take medicaments. It’s to prove I am ‘stable’ to study there, to explain it in a simple way. So I know there are some things that they legally need to administer in those kind of places. So stay calm and try to solve this step by step. When you have doubts, just return to the ones you’ve always trusted. Talk to the persons who love you and it will make you feel better. I hope my advice was at least a little helpful. Take care x

-M

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Anonymous asked: remember me?i'm oreowh0reee&i've sent you a few anon messages asking for your advice. in 2013 i told you on anon that after my france trip with school i was going to hang myself. i tried, but i broke my bed. i don't know why but i thought of that as a sign that suicide isn't the answer. i was clinically depressed for 3 years, i was suicidal,self harmed,anorexic,bulimic,i even had anger issues. i believed nothing would ever get better. but here i am&i've almost recovered. things will get better<3

Yes, of course I remember you. And I remember how broken you seemed when you sent me those messages. I never had any doubt about you, I knew you could do this. I wish I could see you and hug you tightly because I’m so incredibly proud of you. You did it, you could fight against it and win. And it was all thanks to you, you were strong enough to make it. I’m so so happy for you, you don’t have idea. All I can say is, congratulations! You deserve it xx

-M

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Anonymous asked: i cut and i feel like if i would tell my parents they would judge me and think it was for attention they dont understand i cant even tell my own friend cause i feel like she wouldnt understand im tired of hiding it i want help i cant keep harming myself and sometimes it hard to hide my scars like today a girl in my class noticed so she sent me a note and it was saying how she noticed and how she understands and that i could talk to her whenever i wanted to idk if i should reach out to her

You get so exhausted at some point. But that’s what makes you want to change. I think you should try to talk to her, especially since she offered to help. It was a really caring detail. Start little by little, until you feel more comfortable talking about it. Getting used to it can help you talk to your closer ones. Every person that self harms feel scared to tell someone at first. But the reactions often aren’t as bad as you expect. Give yourself the time you need and when you feel you’re ready you can tell them, they will understand. Don’t be scared. Take care x

-M

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fawn-the-gypsy asked: Hi so I self harm currently. I am new at it and have only cut about ten times. However I am really trying to stop So my friend knows I cut and I know she cuts. We talk about it a lot. We both used to just have a few but the other day she texted me about her arm looked like a train wreck. She showed it to me and she must have about fifty small cuts all up her arm. I think its become more of an addiction than "release" for her. What do I do? I don't want to ruin our friendship but im worried. thx

What you need to do is support each other as best as you can, since both of you have the same problem. But the most important thing to help her get better is that she wants to do it. Talk to her about it sometimes and try to convince her about it, say the reasons you have to want to get better. Suggest her to seek for some kind of help, subtly. It’s really sweet that you want to help her even when you have your own problems, you’re a true friend. But never forget to think about yourself. You need to focus on getting better too. Don’t ignore your problems. This advices might be helpful for both of you. And if you ever need to talk to someone, you or your friend, I’ll always be here. Take care and good luck x

-M

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meggie112234 asked: For a while now (a month or so) I've been talking to a guy, let's call him Ashton for confidentiality reasons, and I self harm. Well, I'm 12 days clean but I used to. This guy, Ashton, has attempted suicide 9 times. We like each other but he has a gf. We got incredibly close but now whenever we talk his responses are clipped short and he doesn't seem that interested in even being my friend. He means the world to me and I really don't want to lose him, I wouldn't be able to handle it. Any advice?

Ashton reminds me of a person I really love. But I lost him, and I have some of the fault for that. I don’t want the same to happen to you. If he has a girlfriend, I suggest you to stay a little away from the situation, you can get hurt. If he wants to be your friend he needs to prove it to you. Don’t waste your energies in someone who doesn’t deserve it. Why don’t you hang out and talk about it? The only way I could make my friend talk about his real feelings was if I talked with him face to face. Maybe the situation is similar. But everybody used to tell me to stay away from him because he only made my life more complicated than it already was. I didn’t want to listen. I made the wrong decisions from the beginning. So always think and analyze before you act, but never forget what you heart wants. I hope things get better for you and that you can work this out. But please love, always remember this, no guy deserves your tears. Good luck beautiful x

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fuck-this-user asked: Hi Im 14 years old with a cutting/burning problem since Ive been eleven No one in my 'home' seems to notice or care. Two nights ago I cut pretty deep and a LOT my boyfriend of two years found out. How do I assure him I'm fine? Will he leave me?

It’s really hard for them to notice if you’re careful to hide it. I cut for years and no one noticed until I told them. I can’t tell you if he will leave you or not, I’m sorry love. But if he does, he’s not the one for you, don’t doubt it. You can promise him you’ll do everything in your power to try to stop cutting (it’s better if you actually mean it) and try to explain your situation as best as you can, so he can understand how you feel and think. Promise him everything will be alright. But you know you’re not completely fine, you need help even if you may not want it. If you want things to change you need to seek other roads. Stay strong and keep fighting. Take care x

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Anonymous asked: hi um i cut myself just last week & the scars are still very red & long & visible. i didn't care enough to hide/cover them up bc no one's ever noticed my scars before and i've been cutting for years. yesterday my best friend saw them (she didnt know about it), but she understood bc she WAS my best friend. but today a lot of people noticed them and asked me about it. some people even shouted/demanded answers. i cant tell them the truth & my best friend tried her best 2 make excuses. what do i do?

Hello love. Well, it’s amazing that you have such an amazing friend, it’s always nice to have someone you can count on anytime. I might not know those people, but let me tell you, no one has the right to demand, let alone shout for answers. It’s your life and people (except from your family and most close friends) can’t expect you to talk about it if you don’t want to. I hope I’m not answering too late, here I posted a video with some excuses I found, they might be helpful. Try to make your best, you and your friend, to hide the fact that you cut yourself from those intrusive eyes. Remember, they don’t have the right to demand answers and you don’t have obligation to tell them anything. From now on, try to be more careful with your cuts, particularly when they haven’t healed. I really hope that what I said was a little useful for you. Stay strong and take care x

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Anonymous asked: Hi, i am 22 yrs old and i have been cutting since 16, i recently seeked help and my Doctor told my parents about my SH today, so now my parents are giving me the silent treatment,My dad wont even look at me, i am too scared. what should i do??

I’m sure they don’t know exactly how to deal with it. It’s something really difficult to assimilate since they’re your parents. They might even blame themselves because they didn’t notice about it before or because they think they did something wrong when you were raised. Whatever the reason is, I know you don’t deserve to be ignored, especially in this situation. Try to talk to them, to explain them how you feel and make them understand how hard this is for you. Even when it’s also hard for them, you’re the one who dealing directly with the problem and that means you deserve their support. They’ll never understand how you feel about all this if you never tell them. I’ve always thought that it’s better to talk and confront the problem, than to leave it to solve for itself. If nothing you do seems to work, ask your doctor what you can do, I’m sure their professional opinion will be helpful. No matter what happens between you and them, always remember to keep fighting. Do it for yourself. Keep going, you’re doing so well already. I’m sure you’ll be able to get out of this. If you need to talk to someone, I’ll be here. Stay strong x

-M

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Anonymous asked: I cut myself, and I don't want my parents to find out. they don't understand. they think that people with bipolar, anxiety, or self harm are looking for attention. If we do it for attention, why do you think we try so hard to hide it? don't know how they'll react or respond and I can't even imagine how my life will be when they find out. they'll probably bring me to a therapist or something. they'll think I'm crazy. I just don't know what to do and I don't want to tell them. please help.

We don’t do it for attention, that’s just a false assumption. And people just say it because they don’t understand how it feels to go through that. Maybe they’ll never understand, but they can learn to accept it. It’s also true that is very hard to really understand something that you’ve never experienced. You don’t have to do it now, take all the time you need, until you think you are able to talk about it. But I really suggest you to do it someday. Because hiding that secret for too long can cause a lot of problems and they might find out in a unfortunate way, that is even worse than telling them yourself. I think you should start by telling a close friend, or someone you feel comfortable with. It’ll help you get used to the idea of talking about it. I don’t know how they’ll react because I don’t know them like you do. But I was afraid of telling my family too and their reactions weren’t bad as I expected. Except with my mom, but that was because I told her in an awful situation. But even she learnt to understand me. And now I feel relieved because I don’t have to carry with that secret anymore. I think the best you can do, if you want to feel more relaxed when you say it, is waiting to get better. Starting to confront and solve the problem will give you a better perspective. But if you want to get better you’ll need to make some changes too. Going to a therapist is not as bad as you think. I go to a therapist, for quite a long time actually, and it’s helped me a lot. But I can’t make you do something you don’t want. Just try to find a way you think will work for you. But try to stay strong and keep fighting. Take care x

-M

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Anonymous asked: To the anon about the possible infection, I cut my wrist super deep and it went like that and my bestfriend told me to go to the doctor and I was like nope, long story short two weeks later my entire body was trying to fight the infection as it had spread to various places and I ended up blacking out and quite I'll. trust me go to the doctor,

Thank you for the advice dear anon!

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Anonymous asked: no one but my best friend knows I self harm, and I know for sure that once school starts, other people will eventually find out. I don't know how I can handle people finding out, because knowing them, they'll tell someone. I'm not ready for this to happen. I'm not ready for my parents to find out. it'll just get worse for me. please help.

Here I give you some ways to cover your cuts, I hope they help. If you ever find yourself in a complicated situations and none of this advices are useful, then talk to me and I’ll think of something else you can do. It’s ok if you don’t want people to find out, especially people from school. But consider the fact that you’ll need to tell your parents at some point; hiding that secret forever can hurt them a lot and you mainly. Just take the time you need to think about it, you can start by telling another close friend. Relax and try to stay strong love, I’ll be here if you need me x

-M

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