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Anonymous asked: Thank you for having this blog. I need to know how to cover up my cuts/scars with makeup. I'm trying to stop, but the cuts are still there from a few days ago. People have started talking about my arms and it scares me... :'( help

If they are still healing you can’t use makeup or it will get infected. My suggestion is to use an ace bandage and say you sprained it. Or say that you got into an accident of some sorts and that’s how you got the scratches and turns out your arm was also injured.

Sorry I’m not at my best right now having some sort of episode but I hope you found this helpful we do have links for the makeup if it’s not still healing.

-K

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Anonymous asked: hi so my homecoming is coming up&I want to hide my cuts but I don't know how. theyre not too bad but they're there & noticeable. I usually just wear bracelets or long sleeves but my dress isn't long sleeved and I feel like I'd get judged if I wore bracelets or my parents or friends would tell me that looks dumb and to take them off. I've been freaking out about this and I could just not go, but it's too late. also it really makes me feel bad that no one asked me, probably worse than it should.

I feel your pain. I never got asked to any of the dances. It made me feel bad but I still had a pretty good time with my girlfriends. Yeah it sucks now, but once you find that special someone nothing like that will really matter. 

But anyway onto the cuts. I think that unless you are going for like a sexed out party girl look, slap on a pair of converses and wear your bracelets. If anyone has a problem with it tell them you are fab anyway and you don’t get down like that. 

You could also try cover up if they aren’t fresh. There’s all sorts of makeups. I really don’t think that you really need to worry about it too much though people aren’t really going to be looking it will be dark and a a fun atmosphere just stick with people who aren’t catty.

(ps. sorry if you’d like you can send in another ask and Mica can answer you. I haven’t had sleep in 34 hours. So I’m not sure if that even makes sense but I didn’t want to leave you hanging.)

-K

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Anonymous asked: I've relapsed and my fiance knows. I've told him the best ways to help me out, yet he still reacts in anger. I don't know what to do. He's all the support I have...

That’s not all I am here.

Buy sadly I know what you’re going through my mom still reacts in anger and tells me I have no right to feel the way I do and tells me that I’m quitting life and that I’m lazy because all I do is sleep. She herself is on bipolar depression meds and has the nerve to say these things to me. So trust me in this I know it is not easy to deal with having someone so close to you react in a poor way.

You need to do some research and see if you can find local support groups. There are online and in person. If you can find one they won’t react negatively but out of genuine concern that you won’t be like them. If anything there are lines for people who are like us call in when you are feeling low and they will talk you down.

And like I said I am here for you if you are in the US I will give you my number and you can call me. I have horrible phone anxiety but I will talk to you all night if I have to.

-K

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Anonymous asked: I started cutting about a year and a half ago, when I came out as a lesbian. My mother rejected me immediately, my best friends left me because they didn't like my girlfriend, and my girlfriend was self harming as well at the time, which made for an unhealthy relationship in which trying to help each other made things worse. I've been clean for around 3 months, but recently I've become more depressed and lonely. It's horrible, I don't know why I'm so depressed, I'm terrified of myself... Advice?

I know what that’s like I hope that you all aren’t still together. As bad as that sounds it’s best to separate and get help first.

Hun, it sounds like you are going through a supreme lack of support. Your mother is- well I won’t get into it-I just really hope she comes to her senses before too long, and your friends decided to not be good friends and you may or may not have a girlfriend?

I totally understand why you would be so depressed and lonely.

Sweetheart you need to get out there and make new friends ask about your school having a LGBQT community or join some facebook groups. I wish I could give you advice with your mother, but I haven’t had that experience. Sexuality is a touchy touchy subject and older generations just honestly do not get it. Not all of them are all that accepting. It takes time to get them to come around.

Normally I would harp on seeing a professional, but in this case you need friend therapy. You need to meet a bunch of new people and get out there and start hanging out. If you sit at home all day by yourself in your room on tumblr you will be so mind numbingly bored and depressed you will want to jump. Trust me I have been there and done that.

If you’re not sure about meeting new people try getting a part time job or volunteering at an animal shelter. It’s hard to feel depressed when you are taking cute little puppies on walks or making people drinks (I’m a barrista) and tons of cute girls come in to get coffee so you may score some digits. 

And you can always come and talk to me, I’m not gay myself but I am very knowledgeable about the gay community and plus I think that lesbians are little cuties and should be praised and loved and not hated on. 

-K

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This raccoon never left the side of a cat who was dying of a tumour  The cat was comforted for the final hours of her life by her long time friend.

it’S PETTING THE CAT

THIS IS THE CUTEST THING IN THE ENTIRE UNIVERSE OK

Ugh that is so cute :(

God damn it, gets me everytime

Just wanted to pass this along to remind you support and friendship may come from an unlikely source.

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Anonymous asked: I relapsed only a few weeks ago and I already feel paranoid of everyone. I've been hiding my cuts from everyone including my parents. I really do try to stop but then I just do it again and I'm scared I'm going to go too far one day. any advice?

You just have to keep fighting man. Try to explore other options of coping. Have you isolated what makes you want to cut? Is there any way to change it? If not what are some ways you can better manage the stress/anxiety/bad thoughts that come along with what’s happening? Don’t be afraid to bring those questions back to us with more detail if you don’t know how to answer them on your own.

Like, for example, with me fighting with my mom and feeling like I was disappointing someone really made my skin crawl with the urge to cut. I usually try to write when ever I’m feeling stress or bad thoughts if that doesn’t work then I tell on myself. It’s hard to do and sucks but if you have a person or a few people you can trust make up a code word and just shoot them a text that says ‘pickles’ or something and they will know how you’re feeling and try to help you.

-K

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Anonymous asked: I used to always send in asks on what I should do on this blog and for once Im happy like v v v happy so yea and I just wanted to tell you a big great thank you for helping out (it really does help!!) And (hopefully) I wont need to send in anymore^.^

Ahw that makes me smile to read and I’m sure it will make Mica smile even bigger when she reads it. I’m glad you felt safe enough here to send in asks and I’m so glad you are doing well now, just know it’s not the end of the world if you have to keep sending them in. Everyone needs help every once in a while if we didn’t we would be completely equipped to handle every situation life threw at us and trust me when I tell you that I am not and I need help all the time.

But I am so very happy for you! I hope it sticks for a long long time. :)

-K

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Anonymous asked: I'm selfharm addicted since 2009 and now it's getting worser. I had a close friend who turned into boyfriend, I stopped cutting while we were together but now we don't talk to each other anymore. I miss the friend he was and I started to cut again. I've already apologized, he seems to be touched by what I said but he doesn't do anything to change the situation. It hurts me so much.

Well I know this isn’t what you want to hear but he has his own problems and issues and let’s be honest teenage/young adult males do not have the best track record for knowing what a girl wants or needs. You have to spell it out for him, but you can’t pin your happiness on a boy you have to figure out how to make yourself happy and build a larger support system. Support is completely necessary in recovery and without people in your life willing to help you get better you’ll continue to get worse.

I went for years thinking that if I just had a boyfriend everything would fall in to place and I’d be happy but that’s not the case. Having people in your life that love and cares for you will definitely add to your happiness but they do not guarantee you will be happy all the time.

-K

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Anonymous asked: i feel like cutting again, finals are coming up and if i dont pass every thing it will change my whole future. i dont want to be the failure in my family. it all they every tolk about to me. i cant tell them anything. i cant tell my friends. i tried once to one about me thinking i have a eating disorder when saying " eating a mint can last me the day" and she laughed at me. i lost trust in people. for the last month i lay in bed wanting to cut. i dont know what to do

I understand all the pressure I had to take the semester off this term because it was all mounting on me and I did poorly last semester. But you really can’t think of it that way. It’s not that make or break. You will be fine your family will understand and if they don’t then I’m sorry but your families priorities are very screwed up.

As for your friend I’m sure she either didn’t realize you were being serious or didn’t know what the appropriate reaction was. If you want to talk about something like an ED or Self Harm to friends it has to be done straight forward a lot of people that don’t experience it themselves don’t get it if you try to sugar coat it or hint at the subject.

But honestly friends can only do so much, sweetheart, I suggest seeking a professional. If you ask your guidance counselor at school they have so many helpful resources and will be able to point you in the right direction, you can even do the cliche “it’s for my friend” if it makes you feel better.

And please please come here as often as you need. Mica and I may get caught up in our own lives but one of us will always answer you, love. If you live in the US I can always give you my cell number and if you don’t I can give you my email or my kik where I’ll get alerts when I get a message.

much love,
-K

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Anonymous asked: hi! i was looking for realistic and more substantial tips (not the superficial ones on 'official' help sites as i really want to help her get better) on how i can help my cutting friend. and i found here :p and it's a little scary that the previous ask on oct 1 was the day i noticed my friend's fresh cuts after previously noting her old scars when we first met earlier this year. probably not her, but someone out there thinks her friend is judging and i WONT be that friend. what can i do? thanks!

Typically it depends on the way your friend takes things but I would say to just be really blunt about it and let her know you care and that you want to help. Discuss how she feels and what makes her want to self harm and how you can be there for her when she gets the urge. Make sure that she knows how to clean out her cuts and keep them that way and how to hide them properly. Discuss her maybe going to a doctor or someone in the psychiatric field that can help her. Just basically let her know you are completely there for her and that you want to help her recover. Look over this site with her as well so that she knows there is a community that can help her when you don’t know the right thing to do.

-K
Ps. Sorry for the late response Mica and I are both having a tough time ourselves.

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Anonymous asked: I'm terrified right now. I just found two razor blades sitting in the toilet, as if somebody was going to flush them, in the bathroom I share with my little sister (she's 14). I used to cut, and I know how addictive and injurious it is. I'm so worried about her. What could I say to her? Thank you so much.

Just be up front with her. Tell her you know what it’s like and that you’ve been down that road. If she denies it don’t push her just send her the link to this website. Show her you care and support her. Maybe have a special day for her doing things she enjoys and then at the end of it talk to her about what you went through.

-K

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Anonymous asked: Hi, about a month ago my best friend had killed himself. I've sort of been in denial about the whole thing but yesterday it sort of just hit me? It's like after four weeks I've finally come to the realization that he's actually gone. I actually have a history w selfharm and he's the one that's helped me quit and now that I've come to terms w the fact that he's gone, I relapsed. So, idk I just needed to talk to someone and cd you just give me advice or smthg but none of that 'give it time' bs.

I was in denial for so long about my grandmother dying that I used to pretend she was visiting family in Ohio.. for five years. It’s so hard and some days are easier than others but it never really ever becomes okay. You just have to think about it like this would your friend, who put so much effort into helping you quit self harming, really want you to relapse on behalf of his passing? I can tell you for sure the answer would be no. He would want you to push through, to ugly cry like Kim Kardashian and stuff your face with Ben and Jerry’s while listening to his favorite band. He would want you to do all the things that scared you before because his death proves how short life really is. He would want you to be the best you that you can be. Just because he had a moment of weakness and is now free of whatever that was torturing him doesn’t mean he wants you to torture yourself. And if this doesn’t help I’m very sorry but it’s the best I’ve got and I feel like I’m writing a John Green novel but I swear to the powers that be every word I just typed is the honest truth.
And remember I don’t care that I don’t know you, I know loss and you need love and I’m here for you and I love you very much.


-K

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Anonymous asked: there's a thing where I live called we day and only certain people get tickets and I've wanted to go for so long and I finally got a ticket to go with my school (the only way you can do it basicay) but none of my friends got tickets. it probably doesn't sound like much of a problem, but I have really bad panic attacks and if I don't have someone I know well near me it will be worse. I want to go so bad but I'm scared I'll have a panic attack. Should I go or not? :(

Sweetheart don’t let the fear of panic attacks stop you from doing fun things. A panic attack is seriously not the worst thing that can happen trust me I suffer from them but it’s way worse missing out on life because you’re afraid of having an episode. Yeah you may feel like you’re dying for like five minutes but you will get through it and then be able to have a blast. You can make new friends at We day and then you will be so glad you went.
-K

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